-Sigh- Ex's and the Curse Of The Bad Romance Life..

-sigh-.

What a great night.. I finally beat the girl I have a massive crush on at the bowling alley, and we have a bet that if I win total games, she has to go out on a date with me and tell me her phone number..

Thats not the problem..

During the course of the night, she and I talk, and she casually remarks that my Ex ( yes.. that dreaded word.. )'s friends said some stuff, about me.. Now mind you this girl, Val, whom I've had a subtle crush on for about 3 months, (* my entire time bowling *), and thought liked me too, was very open, and friendly. I may mention, I think we've achieved the friends status, but I'm not sure I'll get anything more out of her.. however my heart is crushed because of that.

Val, is everything I could look for in a woman, funny, beautiful, talented, and I can talk to her very easily.. ( not common, especially with my disorder of Asperger's that makes it very difficult to talk to peers of my own age.. ), yet we'd ben getting along just great. We were huggy and everything.. and then she lays the "Ex's friends said stuff about you..." line on me and my heart completely cracked, my score went down from 122 to about 89.. Thats a pretty dramatic drop..

I really like this girl, and I'd do anything to be with her but she tells me a line that my ex used to say all the time.. "I don't trust men..thats why I'm afraid to go out or do anything, or give out my number.."

Why... why does she have to break my heart like this? Do other peoples opinion REALLY matter about what the person says about the person whos trying to get a date with the new person? I mean aren't the datee's opinion very important instead of the Ex's or the Ex's friends?

I know it sounds like I'm ranting, but I'm very sore about this because I thought, or rather, I saw a strong future with Val up until tonight..

*sigh* What can I do about this?

Oh and make it even worse, I have work tommarow morning, yet I lost my schedual in my pocket so I'm not even sure what time I'm supposed to be in. I have to stay awake all night and make sure I call them tommarow morning VERY early and ask what time I'm supposed to be in, even when I ran in earlier and got my schedual..

I hate to ask, but what did they say about you?

She may have asked you about this, just because she likes you enough to ask for your side of the story.

I think you are still in.

-WC-

I'm not all too sure what they said, but it can't be good, because of the way the conversation changed when she said it... :(

Not to promote the use of alcohol, but why don't you get some of your buddies and just chill with a couple of beers? I mean stuff happens, and that has happened to me before

ah, she knew whatever she was told and still went bowling with you. I do think she was just asking for your side of the matter - which means she cares enough to ask.

-WC-

ehh. don't beat yourself up over it, find another girl on match.com ;)

What you need to do son is go out and well and truly beyond a drunken stupour and go find yourself a really dog ugly girl to take home and give a good seeing to.:D

Here in Holland, there are two kinds of girls:
the first is (supposely like your girl) very dependent on how other people think of her. If she dates a guy who's not loved or adored by the community, SHE isn't loved or adored by the community. And she really cares a lot about it.
The second doesn't care wether the guy she's dating is loved or liked or not. She just simply likes him, because he is himself.
Now the first aren't special, there are thousands of them in this country. It's the trick to find 'your girl' among the second type!

My suggestion is: talk it over with her. If you really can set up good conversations with her, this would be easy too. Just be honest and everything will be allright.

the first is (supposely like your girl) very dependent on how other people think of her. If she dates a guy who's not loved or adored by the community, SHE isn't loved or adored by the community. And she really cares a lot about it.

Here in the states that Ratio of #1 to #2 is about 9999:1.

Aye, she is a rare and beautiful thing when you see it. But it's usually not at the right time of your life when you notice it which makes it even worse...

-WC-

Dude, I know what your going through, the same thing is happenen to me! I fell in love with this girl, only to find out that one of my exes started talking **** about me! My advice: Don't worry 'bout it. Usually when people do this ****, it's a revenge thing...or mabye they want you BACK!! IF you can have a good conversation with this girl, ask her to tell you honestly what whatshername said and get over it. This girl seems right for you. It's all kool and i got ya back if ya need anything, just pm me or somethin ya know?

Peace out love

Hey Xerihut, I was wondering how this went? It's now a month later. Just curious because I went through something similar to this at the start of the relationship with my wife. Things do work out even though the x's like to talk a bunch of crapola.

Originally posted by Xehirut
-sigh-.
Val, is everything I could look for in a woman, funny, beautiful, talented..

Why thankyou Xehirut! I had no idea you felt this way about me. lol

Damnit Val, you had me do a triple take with the post dates then. You're quick lol

Wow!! exactly one year after the thread was made, she thanks him:) ........